How we do relationships has everything to do with how our mind is wired. Our issues may come from our parents, our ancestors, experiences with significant others, or a combination of all of these. We carry forward karmic energy from past lives that needs to be completed. Whatever the reason, we can reveal the wound and heal it to change our current and future reality.
When we begin to look at our patterns of love relationships in our lives, it is important to see the love story running in the back of our minds. We come into life in particular familial situations. Once we are born, we have no conscious control over the beliefs of our parents and family members seeping into our minds. We watch how they behave, and we listen to what they say. We can take on their issues without knowing it.
As we get older, we have patterns of thoughts and behaviors we may not understand and want to change. A lot of ideas we carry may not even be our own. They could stem from how our parents felt when we were in the womb and then got transferred to us. They could be carried in our ancestral bloodline, being genetically passed down to us through the generations.
As far as love relationships, we have experiences with people that we then create a story about. Some of the stories are uplifting. Others can be detrimental to our well-being. Our love relationships commonly mirror the feelings and emotions we had growing up in our family. The first step in being able to change our patterns and behaviors begins with determining the root cause of those issues. When we identify the root cause, we can make changes.
If you want to create a new reality in your love life, you must be willing to dig deep to reveal and heal your limiting beliefs. To help you begin the revealing process, think about your parental, ancestral, and love relationships. Write out your story and beliefs in as much detail as possible. You may discover patterns of abandonment, abuse, power, putting other people’s needs above your own, or other negative experiences. You may notice certain times in your life where you had positive relationships and experiences. Writing about your relationships starts to open up the memories and primes the pump for deeper awareness, so that healing can begin.
What epiphanies do you have when you examine your patterns of relationships? What is working for you? What do you wish to change? It’s never too late to create healthy, loving relationships in your life.
If you would like additional help through this process, the Sacred Soul Love Workbook and Online Course will take you through exercises and methods that work to reveal and heal your blockages and limitations. Alternatively, I would love to guide you through the process with private coaching.